Behind every great man is a woman who can probably do it better.

Male pride is real.


Whew…Nothing tires me more than Martin Luther King and Malcolm X.

Who was right?

Who I should follow?

Christianity or Islam?

Society’s acceptance or self acceptance?

Love thy enemy or protection from your enemy?

Hawt dawg! Martin & Malcolm are morality’s rubik’s cube much like Charles Xavier and Magneto are in the X-men comic book series. You love Xavier but you agree with Magneto.

Either/or, both paths led to destruction. Leaving us who wish to push humanity ahead without getting shot in the head lost and alone. No blueprint. No caution, “you’re going to far.” No elder to affirm, “its gonna be alright.”

I tell you when it seems the fabric of hope is all gone I come across Coretta Scott King and Dr. Betty Shabazz and I’m able to sew a new pattern, a new idea, a new practice.

I find two epic female figures able to accomplish what two epic male figures could not – pretend that it’s not that serious!

Yes, freedom is serious. But one thing I can surely say about death is that it shows you how petty our differences are and how similar our desires are. Betty and Coretta felt this in their valley shadow and death. I question if Malcolm and Martin did.

Principled men are stout. Arrogant. Unmoving. Thinking the earth will slide off its orbit like milk slides off a table’s edge if they don’t argue their obvious differences.

Late in life I saw the opposite in my sister, my mother, my girlfriend, my sister in-laws, my girl *space* friends, my…my…GEE-WHIZ-KHALIFA every woman I know KNOWS how to keep peace with scallywags and backstabbers.

How much more should folks of different faiths be able to combine forces with groups of similar interests. Love thy neighbor and enemy is easy to say. Sadly I’ve never seen it practiced.

Coretta Scott King and Dr. Betty Shabazz pushed the practice of making friends with your “enemies” into the realm of human choices for people of power.

Now I know someone out there is pointing at my article saying “Congregants The Honorable Dr Imam Pastor Waynard Thrufribulous Ali wouldn’t want us reasoning like the weak female! There are serpents among us. SERPENTS!” Over a pork chop dinner somebody’s telling their wife, “It’ll never work. Muslims and Christians are like Transformers and Decepticons. They can’t get along. It’s prophesied.”

So what if it doesn’t work? If it doesn’t, do what the women I know do — talk about their shoes behind their back.

These stubborn living and dead men receive perpetual head shakes from me:
Spike Lee and Tyler Perry
Cornell West and The President of The United States
Lupe Fiasco and The Entire Hip Hop World
Booker T Washington and W.E.B Dubois
50 Cent and The Game
50 Cent and Rick Ross
50 Cent and Fat Joe
50 Cent and Young Buck

Coretta & Betty are a great model for men and especially men of faith to follow. Can we truly say that we are peaceful if we are so quick to war?

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